I’m Stephanie Courtillier,
and I learned this the hard way.
As an ambitious workaholic, I leapt into entrepreneurship headfirst.
Millions of half-baked ideas littered my brain. I chased what everybody else was doing so I too could achieve (seemingly) overnight success. In true ENFJ fashion, I built on too many projects at the same time and gave up when they didn’t work quickly enough.
OR, I took the opposite route and analyzed/paralyzed each idea so it never got off the ground. Either way, I had little to no results to show.
I would make a little progress in my business, then hit the next roadblock – a vicious cycle of perfectionism and procrastination. It was always one step forward and two steps back. I felt isolated and ashamed I couldn’t follow through or just will my way into a successful business.
Burnout mode hit me like a ton of bricks – several times. Since our businesses are an extension of ourselves, of course I started questioning everything about my true worth as a person.
Why am I constantly having to prove myself? How do I stop people-pleasing and start believing in me?
How can I be a mom, business owner, philanthropist, and friend while still being me? Who am I, really? What does it mean to be me, at every moment of every day?
How do I integrate giving back so it doesn’t feel like I’m running a charity AND a business? Can I be financially stable and live my social impact dreams at the same time?”
The worst part?
I appeared “successful” to everyone on the outside.
I was showing up, being a supportive friend, and always motivated others towards their dreams. Yet, I was frustrated, tired, and saw no clear path to live up to the potential I KNEW was inside of me.
The shift happened when I sat down with myself and asked, what’s MY version of a fulfilled life?
It was time to stop looking outward for the answers. I had them inside, all along. I just had to get quiet, borrow my community’s belief in me, and start designing my own pathway to fulfillment.
I took action in ways that scared me, like competing (and winning!) in speech competitions, integrating trauma-informed personal development work, hiring a virtual assistant and investing 10k in a mastermind – even though that’s exactly how much I had earned that year from my business.
I only succeeded by asking for help and creating a like-minded support team around me as I went deep on my journey within. Each step opened new doors.
For the first time, I found peace. I found clarity. I found purpose in moving myself towards my bigger vision while embracing the journey AND the destination.
I learned my superpower: designing communities that create connection and impact so each member thrives. After honing in on my calling, I started seeing tremendous results in my business.
The WHO and WHY of Integrous Women
1. Growth: Becoming the best version of ourselves personally and professionally
2. Integrity: Living life authentically and on our own terms
3. Contribution: Empowering ourselves and others through philanthropic servant leadership